Feb 18, 2008

Indian Parents and Marriage

Indian Parents and Marriage
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I guess one clear difference I see between Indian parents and Western parents when it comes to pestering their 30-something children to "marry and get settled down", is in the approach and decision making freedom.

Western parents (or more often aunts) might try to set you up with someone on a date and ask you to call them, talk to them and spend time with them.

Indian parents, first match horoscopes, then decide that the "family is good", they are respected and respectable people etc, all the aunts/uncles get familiarized with each other and then as some afterthought, ask the prospective bride and groom to be (note that they are already considered groom/bride) to talk to each other.

So this places undue pressure and yet some dads keep repeating the statement, "just because you talk does not mean you are committing, don't be afraid and blah blah blah".

Of course, if you are decidedly ruthless (which I hope to be), then you need not worry about all the aunts and uncles and you can and should be ready to walk away from all this when you feel like.

I think, what Indian parents need to do is to see more fairly tales and movies like Enchanted and DDLJ and other quintessential love stories instead of trying to be practical and organize arranged marriage scenarios.

Enough said.
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  1. I couldn't agree more with you. Good thing I'm now more "westernize" and won't be the subject of those match making ideas.

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